I grew up in Fort Lauderdale, that spanned from ages 10 to 18 when I left for college.  I only went as far as Miami for school, less than an hour’s drive from my home in Lauderdale; I spent my impressionable years in the southeast coast of Florida.  While the culture felt generally pretty progressive, it still reflected the 1980’s and painted a vastly different picture than the Seattle area in the new millennium.  Once, you stir in the heavy Cuban influence in Miami, it gives it a very distinctive flavor.

Naturally, my community deviated even further from what is generically ‘South Florida’.  Growing up Chinese American, this blue-collar, Cantonese-speaking community held their own set of values.  While we didn’t have a centralized physical location, like a Chinatown or International District, we still casually knew each other.  We generally prioritized service and family over love.  By the time I left Florida in 1991, I knew precisely one Chinese couple who had gotten divorced.  People stayed in loveless marriages.

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In 2005, I contemplated getting a new car.  Sports cars, especially two-seater convertibles, have fascinated me for many years.  As such, I finally made my peace with getting my own midlife crisis car.  I made a short list of cars and periodically scheduled a test drive with the local dealership.  Among the cars on my list were:  Honda S2000, BMW Z4 (or possibly the Z3), and the Lotus Elise.  Both the S2000 and the Elise were going to be more difficult to test drive, since the dealerships did not have any in stock.

On one particular sunny weekday afternoon, I arrive at the BMW dealership.  I exchange documents with the salesperson in order for me to go on a test drive.  We take the top down on the car and climb in.  We zip away as I proceed to go on a well-intentioned joy ride.  The salesperson pitches how this is probably the most fun car to drive with the possible exception of the Lotus Elise.  Next, I saw the flashing lights behind me.

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