This is an embarrassing story, but I’ll tell it for two reasons. First, one of my aspirations when writing this blog is to be honest, even if that doesn’t necessarily paint me in a good light. Second, it illustrates a subtle point that many of us don’t think about much but is important to mention.
Few years ago, I wandered down to the cafeteria to get lunch like most afternoons. Our cafeteria is in a cluster of four buildings, serves hundreds of people, and has many different stations. I came down right around noon, so it was busy. As I stood in one line to get my food, my mind wandered, and I people watched. I took note of a young woman several feet in front of me on the next station; she was facing away. She was sharply dressed and had long flowing hair. For a brief moment, I thought to myself, “She’s cute. I wonder what she looks like.”